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I'm Vanilla & Fucking Proud of It!


Normal according to DSM-V: 



The Gas Mask gives it a je ne sais quoi, don't ya think?


Why is it the media wants to ram down our throats and up our asses that BDSM practitioners are just as mentally healthy as the general population based on a handful of people?


http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/whips_chains_neurotic_vanilla_peers_ebwiuRduLQ0AIznbiNZS9O

I don't get the giant push. Honestly.

I also don't get why hardcore BDSM is getting the thumbs up from the press. Perhaps those people who write about it and condone BDSM are, in fact, practitioners themselves? Perhaps they want to give themselves validity for something that's way beyond normal?

The reason why I'm up in arms is because I was in a relationship with a 'sub' and let me tell you, the motherfucker is mentally ill. First off, I didn't know he was a 'sub' until he informed me about his sex slave bondage porn films. It took a while to reconcile the sexually aggressive man with the passive man who enjoys this shit.



The man is accustomed to donning a whole host of personas, no doubt to hide his true self. I adored the intelligent, yet socially awkward geek one. That lasted until he told me the truth about himself and then other personas popped up in rapid succession. I had no idea who I was in a relationship with: the man who loved having his testicles tied up with his urethra and anus expanded to ungodly proportions or the man who has such bad anger management issues his colleagues live in perpetual fear of being murdered at work. The stories he told me about his ex-wife were equally frightening.

All I want to know is: why weren't those two fucking maniacs included in the BDSM study? Why should they - that might skewer the results!

Of course, they aren't the only ones I know. Quite a few have approached me and disclosed their predilection towards BDSM because it's in vogue and for some reason, people love to clue me in. *sigh* Let me tell you, I wouldn't have ANY of these people over my house. Lord knows what they would do to me!

Don't tell me it's normal for a 'straight' man to desire having 10" strap-ons rammed up his ass and down his throat at the same time while he howls in pain and gags till he throws up. Or, a man tied up while a woman shoves metal pipe cleaners down his urethra. Then again, you have women who enjoy doing this as well. And the role reversal. But, what the hell do I know?

I guess we'll have to teach children in sex education class that this is quite normal.

"Johnny, how do people have sex?"

"Tied up doggy style so men can have objects shoved up their rectums while their testicles are burnt with a bunsen burner."

"Julie, what is a normal sexual act?"

"Having pincers attached to labial lips, strapped down while a man rams his penis down the throat."

"Very good, students. You're definitely normal."

W T F??

Call me old-fashioned - I believe that sex is fun, happy, good, feels good and an expression of the joy in life. And, should I be lucky to even like the guy and that's reciprocated, it extends to an expression of intimacy and love. I never had the inclination to include pain in the equation. I never had the urge to hurt the man. In bed. Or want to be hurt. At all.

So I guess, in that regard, I'm ill, right? I'm the perverse one here.

I can only see the DSM-VI: tender sex between people who enjoy each other is deemed mentally ill.

Or perhaps this is the way to keep population down. As is cannibalism, zombie disease and genocide.

Does anyone else see that something's wrong here or is it only me?

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6 comments:

Mister Hoover said...

Perhaps you lack imagination. :D

maura stone said...

Ha ha ha - No, I've an extraordinary imagination that never ceases to surprise me. I don't require external stimulation or experimentation to feel. Which I mean by 'feel' is happy and all those attributes I mentioned above. That, sir, is the difference.

Mister Hoover said...

We all have our limits. Rules we live by, however we might come by them. And there are those who like to cross those lines for the experience. You choose what (or how much) you want to feel.

Some folks get off on public nudity/indecency. That's crossing a line for others. *shrug* Whatever floats your boat. Or man in a canoe, I suppose.

maura stone said...

Well said, Mister Hoover.

Kathi said...

How about you just do your thing and let other people do theirs? I'm not into BDSM, but if others enjoy it, who am I to judge them or try to take away their right to do it? It being considered normal in the media just shows, in my eyes, that society is becoming more open-minded to all different kinds of sex. Nobody is trying to stop you from doing it missionary-style with your monogamous, opposite-sex partner. Give others the same courtesy and stop sticking your metaphorical nose in their bedrooms. (One might wonder why you care so much about what people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms.)

maura stone said...

Gee, Kathi. You sound awfully angry and defensive there. I can only imagine what metaphoric buttons I pushed with this piece!